October 15, 2013 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Over the weekend I watched a half marathon and was amazed at the different shapes and sizes of people who crossed the finish line. The first and fastest were gazelle-like creations who seemed to have an effortless bounce in their strides, barely breaking a sweat. Then there was the middle group of older, less prepared, […]
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The Beauty of Being You
January 11, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I woke in the middle of the night in awe of a Facebook video that I experienced: The Beauty of Being You. At three a.m. I had to drag myself out of bed to pen these thoughts and emotions. I was deeply touched by the beauty of what I experienced. I began to reflect on […]
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Pulling Your Own Weight: Is Your Marital Partnership Equitable?
December 8, 2014 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
It’s been two and a half years since saying goodbye to my healthy monthly paycheck and joining my husband in full time partnership. On occasion I still wonder if my accomplishments or contributions to our partnership are earning my keep. Am I doing my fair share in furthering our mission and vision? Though I have […]
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Emotional Attunement is Essential for Marriage and Personal Health
September 30, 2014 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
What is Emotional Attunement? Emotional attunement is being tuned in to the emotions of others. From the time we are born we need at least one trusted person to help us make sense of our internal and external world. Infants who bond with their mothers look to them for first-line help to navigate physical reality. […]
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Productive Distractions
September 24, 2014 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
This past week has taken me off my originally mapped-out course of our book writing project. Running Michael’s busy psychotherapy practice is both rewarding and challenging. Phone calls throughout my day leave me distracted by the sounds of marital crisis. The depth of emotional pain in their pleas for help is sometimes overwhelming. The urgent […]
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What is True Masculinity?
September 12, 2014 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I am leading a new men’s group, attended mostly by men who I have been seeing with their wives in couple’s therapy. Beginning each group with a centering mediation, today I began to focus on the area of embracing our true masculinity. I asked the men to get in touch with who they are as […]
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10 Resolutions Worth Keeping
December 31, 2013 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Have you ever wondered why less than 17% of Americans are able to live into their new years resolutions? Can you guess what the top three resolutions are that Americans make? 1. Loosing weight. 2. Getting organized. 3. Spending less and saving more. What if our resolutions truly lined up with our core values and […]
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What Makes the Holidays Happy?
December 24, 2013 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
So many of us idealize the season of Christmas. Neuroscience has taught us that we are created for connection and that our brains crave hugs and warm emotional affirmations. This does indeed bring us happiness and a sense of well being. No matter how old we are we cannot help but wish for the magic […]
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Inhaling Capacity to Connect: Oxytocin, Brain and Behavior
December 20, 2013 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
New research has found a that inhaling oxytocin decreased decision making time about non-verbal social information in autism spectrum disorder patients (ASD). Oxytocin, known as the cuddle hormone, exists in higher levels in mothers with newborn children and in couples who are connected and sexually active. It is believed to be the hormone that is […]
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Building Emotional Muscle
November 4, 2013 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
When I returned to the gym two years ago it had been 30 years since I had lifted weights. Since I would never again play college football I didn’t see the point. But at age 56 when I began falling over when trying to put on my underwear I knew I needed to get with […]
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Racing for Relationships
October 15, 2013 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Over the weekend I watched a half marathon and was amazed at the different shapes and sizes of people who crossed the finish line. The first and fastest were gazelle-like creations who seemed to have an effortless bounce in their strides, barely breaking a sweat. Then there was the middle group of older, less prepared, […]
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