August 17, 2017 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t want, and expect, loyalty from their partner. A solemn promise, whether before God, friends, family or a Las Vegas Elvis and showgirls, does not make the issue of loyalty a done deal. In this day and age, keeping our eyes on each other is no easy task. But […]
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How To Love Well On Valentines Day And Every Other Day
February 10, 2021 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
Have you found your true love, your soul mate, your twin flame? If so, do you know how to love well on Valentines Day and every other day of the year? Have you found that special someone who will light you up on your darkest day? The one who will be there through thick and […]
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3 Keys To Healthy Relationships For Married Couples
February 28, 2019 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
Everyone wants their marriage to be fantastic. Unfortunately, they don’t all work out that way. My husband’s and my previous marriages ended in divorce. So we’ve spent the last 10 years really digging into the science of love and healthy relationships for married couples. Not only did we need to understand our failed relationships, […]
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Lifetime Love: Protect & Deepen Your Love
August 31, 2017 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
Close your eyes for 20 seconds and reflect on the first time you laid eyes on that special person who eventually captured your heart. What are your early memories of that very significant other to whom you said I will or I do? Was it love at first sight? Did the stars and moon align to […]
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Loyalty: Being Faithful, True and Devoted
August 17, 2017 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t want, and expect, loyalty from their partner. A solemn promise, whether before God, friends, family or a Las Vegas Elvis and showgirls, does not make the issue of loyalty a done deal. In this day and age, keeping our eyes on each other is no easy task. But […]
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ME Time or WE Time: Priorities That Will Make or Break Relationship
August 9, 2017 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
How do new moms find the balance between “ME”, “WE” and baby? When there’s not enough time, energy or resources to do it all, how do you juggle your priorities? ME Time or WE Time, how to make it work? Will your priorities make or break your relationship? Becoming a new mom ushers in a […]
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What Women Want From Their Man: He Needs to Listen
July 31, 2017 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles
What do women want from their man? And why don’t we get it? One of the biggest questions we get in our therapy practice is this: “Why doesn’t he listen when I’m talking to him?” Are you getting what you want from your man? Do these statements feel familiar? He doesn’t listen to me. He […]
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Marriage After Divorce: Getting it Right the Second Time Around
April 6, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Are you starting over, beginning a new relationship after divorce? Remarriage after one or more failed relationships can be scary, so much so that some say “never again”. Frank Sinatra beautifully sang, “Love is lovelier, the second time around”. Ole Blue Eyes, as well as many of us, have experienced the betrayal in those words. […]
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Keeping Your Love Alive: 4 Ways to Avoid Marriage Failure
February 21, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Keeping the fires burning and the love alive in marriage may not come naturally. The new-love hormone, dopamine, begins to fade after the first year or two of relationship. What then? How do you keep love alive and your relationship healthy and vibrant? Our brain, memories and emotion: What makes us feel close to each […]
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How Fear of Codependency Can Backfire
February 9, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Beth was days away from her storybook wedding. Her excitement about beginning life with the man of her dreams radiated through her giddy smile. All her friends were doing it. And finally it was her turn. What could be wrong with this picture? Only Beth knew of the knot she secretly harbored in her gut. […]
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Tandem Marriage: Being Your Best Self With The Person You Love
January 22, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
What is Tandem Marriage? Merriam Webster defines “tandem” as: a group of two people or things that work together; in partnership or in conjunction. If you have read through some of our previous Tandem Marriage blog posts, you’ll know that Michael and I ride a tandem racing bike, a bicycle-built-for-two. We have covered a bunch […]
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