January 4, 2019 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Beep, beep, beep! Susan slammed her hand down on the alarm to silence it. The stillness in the room was spoiled by the weighty reality of another long and lonely day. Her husband Mark would be at the office for more than a dozen hours, leaving Susan alone from sunup to sundown… yet again. Is […]
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Do We Find Ourselves in the Arms of Another… Or in the Depth of Ourself?
May 21, 2024 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Are you seeking counseling or therapy for yourself, your relationship or for business growth? Maybe you’re looking for help with communication, addiction or trauma. Perhaps you’re like many who call my office wondering do I work on my imperfect relationship first? Or do I start with my imperfect self? Now more than ever I’ve been […]
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3 Vital Keys to Connection in Marriage
January 4, 2019 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Beep, beep, beep! Susan slammed her hand down on the alarm to silence it. The stillness in the room was spoiled by the weighty reality of another long and lonely day. Her husband Mark would be at the office for more than a dozen hours, leaving Susan alone from sunup to sundown… yet again. Is […]
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5 Ways to End Loneliness (According to Attachment Science)
October 22, 2018 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Are you dreading another weekend without plans? Do you wonder why the eligible bachelors keep passing you by? Are you sick and tired of being lonely and just want to fill the hole in your heart with someone meaningful? I get that. Loneliness is real and painful! I’ve been working with a young, successful businesswoman, […]
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Affairs, Addictions and Attachment Insecurity: The 3 A’s of Heartbreak
June 13, 2016 / by Michael & Paula Regier / Relational Excellence Articles
I think most people on the planet have experienced heartbreak at one time or another. When it comes to love relationships, Attachment Insecurity will often result in Affairs and Addictions…which will likely lead to Heartbreak. Can you relate to Jonathon and Megan’s story of heartbreak? Jonathon swirled the ice cubes in his sparkling soda while […]
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How Emotionally Focused Therapy Can Save and Transform Your Marriage
February 29, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I will never forget the day I sat wide and teary-eyed in my Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) externship. I watched as Sue Johnson, co-founder of EFT, worked live with a couple, exposing us to the EFT process. It was like nothing I had ever seen before. None of my previous therapy training had prepared me […]
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Attachment and Anger Part III: Taming the Tiger Within
February 1, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
What if you are caught in a cycle of conflict with the person you love and your bad anger is destroying your bond? How do you tame the terrified tiger inside of you? Most intimacy anger is rooted in the fear of losing the person we love. And we often have difficulty admitting to ourselves […]
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Attachment and Violent Anger Part II: 4 Dangerous Ways to Express Our Anger
January 24, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
In Attachment and Violent Anger Part I, I talked about how attachment with caregivers in our early-years causes us to form either a positive trusting view of our selves and others or a view that is negative and mistrustful. Loss of attachment is critically dangerous to human beings. When people trapped in the World Trade […]
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Attachment and Violent Anger – Part 1: How They Are Connected
January 18, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
How are Attachment and Violent Anger Connected? Understanding the connection between intimacy and anger is important for improving our own relationship, and if you are a therapist like me knowing how to help others. Some couples I work with are so stuck in a cycle of anger that the emotional communication work I normally do […]
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Love, Respect and Love Languages Did Not Save My Life!
December 16, 2014 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Admittedly I am envious of the fame and fortune of popular Christian books suggesting a better marriage in 5, 7 or 10 steps. Love languages, respect and his and her needs are all pieces of making great marriage. But so much popular love advice today misses the love language of emotional connection. On a […]
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Emotional Attunement is Essential for Marriage and Personal Health
September 30, 2014 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
What is Emotional Attunement? Emotional attunement is being tuned in to the emotions of others. From the time we are born we need at least one trusted person to help us make sense of our internal and external world. Infants who bond with their mothers look to them for first-line help to navigate physical reality. […]
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