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Emotional Connection

Emotional Connection

The Story & Science of Preventing Conflict & Creating Lifetime Love

by Dr. Michael and Paula Regier

Emotional Connection is a captivating story of a relationship in trouble plus the science and expertise that makes sense of it all!

Experience the hearts and minds of Ben and Claire when their once perfect relationship finds itself in crisis.

Here’s what others are saying about Emotional Connection:

I have yet to see a book explain the power of attachment in a way that draws the reader into the story of another. I couldn’t put it down. Few books take a reader into an experience where they can relate to and remember the information. This book accomplishes that.

~ Joshua Straub, Ph.D.Author, Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well

This special and unique combination of fiction and science offers a much-needed message about love and bonding. Written for the general public but also very informative to all couple therapists, the poignant love story of Ben and Claire will illuminate romantic connection for all that are lucky enough to read Emotional Connection.

~ Paul A. Aikin, Ph.D.

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More praise for Emotional Connection:

The authors tell an emotional story within a scientific structure that reaches down deep into the lives of all too many of us. The story opens with a focus on the life of a young married couple that are sincerely in love but quickly find themselves disconnected with the love of their life. The disconnect in the relationship resulted from subtle, gradual, and emotional distancing.

The book is a story from which every married couple can benefit. It tells a story of staying emotionally connected and preventing emotional distancing. It also tells a story of going through a love-crisis and coming out of it emotionally healthy, strong, and reconnected. Only then can a couple begin to live a life-long love affair together.

The book is long overdue. Many marriages have struggled without the professional and personal insights of the Regiers.​​

~ Allan G. Hedberg, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist

If you’re curious about what builds emotional safety in relationships this insightful book will let you peer behind the curtain and see how to improve your own marriage or help someone else’s. In their unique and captivating approach the authors invite you to be a fly on the wall of marital therapy sessions and what happens in the couple’s relationship between sessions. Rich with clinical and research insights this practical guide will show you how even a well-intentioned marriage can drift, get stuck, and then repair.

~ Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC, bestselling author of The Smart Stepfamily and President,

Dr. Regier’s wealth of experience in using attachment theory to counsel couples, is presented in the most accessible and clear way. The book has a very engaging style in which we follow the story of a couple, we sit in on their counseling sessions and lastly we benefit from the analysis given by Dr. Regier. Our emotional connections with others do not have to be an illogical and unpredictable abyss to be avoided… they can be the source of much joy and a foundation for a much deeper and lasting relationship.

~ Andre Rabe, International speaker and founder of Mimesis Academy


About the Authors ~ the serious side of Dr. Michael and Paula Regier:

Authors Dr. Michael and Paula Regier are married and work together in the Center for Relational Excellence. They serve clients throughout California via teletherapy and have offices in San Luis Obispo and Los Osos, California. Michael earned his Ph.D. from the California School of Professional Psychology and has over thirty years of experience as a clinical psychologist. He is a certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Supervisor. He’s a former faculty member at Kaweah Delta Health Care District in Visalia, California and at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine in Baltimore, Maryland.

Paula has a background in business and accounting. Paula is the Center’s administrator as well as co-creator and administrator of Emotional Connection Relationship Foundations Online Education Course.

Michael and Paula are passionate about helping couples prevent relationship failure through attachment based treatment and education.

And the lighter side of Michael and Paula ~

We have offices in Los Osos and San Luis Obispo, California. We enjoy a taste of California’s Central Valley foothills and agriculture while living on the beautiful Central Coast.

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Dr. Michael and Paula Regier

We’re ZOOMing with California couples Monday through Fridays from our Los Osos, California office at the Central Coast.

And we love getting up to San Diego, Seattle or down to Southern Cali to visit our son, sibs, and parents.


We love to work together and play together. Whether on our electric bicycles, hiking, kayaking, doing P90X or just enjoying a glass of wine with friends or family, we are forever committed to connection.

Dr. Michael and Paula Regier
Paula Regier Author Emotional Connection

Emotional Connection

The Story & Science of Preventing Conflict & Creating Lifetime Love

Begin changing your past, present and future!