April 6, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Are you starting over, beginning a new relationship after divorce? Remarriage after one or more failed relationships can be scary, so much so that some say “never again”. Frank Sinatra beautifully sang, “Love is lovelier, the second time around”. Ole Blue Eyes, as well as many of us, have experienced the betrayal in those words. […]
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Quality Relationships Key to Lifelong Happiness
January 9, 2017 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Harvard Study Proves Quality Relationships “Trump” Wealth, Success and Fame for Lifelong Happiness A remarkable 75-year study conducted under the direction of Robert Waldinger (the 4th director over the term of the study) has compared Harvard graduates with Boston residents who grew up disadvantaged. This appears to be the longest study of lifelong happiness. Since […]
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5 Pillars of Trust
October 24, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Have you trusted and been deeply hurt? If you have known the pain of betrayal, you have also known the fear of fully trusting again. Am I right? Trust may be the most powerful asset we possess and the most difficult and painful to lose. Let’s take a closer look at the 5 Pillars of Trust. […]
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7 Reasons Women Attack the Men They Love: How to Respond Without a Fight
July 20, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Virtually every man who has been in a love relationship has experienced his partner coming at him with critical emotion. Often the “attack” feels completely unwarranted. Understanding these 7 reasons women attack the men they love and how you can respond without a fight is critical to healthy and happy relationship. Are you ready to […]
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Affairs, Addictions and Attachment Insecurity: The 3 A’s of Heartbreak
June 13, 2016 / by Michael & Paula Regier / Relational Excellence Articles
I think most people on the planet have experienced heartbreak at one time or another. When it comes to love relationships, Attachment Insecurity will often result in Affairs and Addictions…which will likely lead to Heartbreak. Can you relate to Jonathon and Megan’s story of heartbreak? Jonathon swirled the ice cubes in his sparkling soda while […]
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7 Ways to Get That Loving Feeling Back
May 2, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Have you lost that loving feeling? Here are 7 Ways to get it back…and keep it! It is no mystery that feelings come and go in relationships. Songs have been lamenting this reality since the beginning of time. But you hear little factual advice about what to do to get your loving feeling back. Where […]
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Trust After Betrayal: Moving Forward
April 17, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Are you stuck in the trauma of betrayal? Are you unable to move forward in your love relationship? You are not alone! It can feel hopeless to trust again when we have been betrayed by the person we love. Betrayal: Where does it begin? Emotional or sexual affairs Not being present for the delivery of […]
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Marriage After Divorce: Getting it Right the Second Time Around
April 6, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Are you starting over, beginning a new relationship after divorce? Remarriage after one or more failed relationships can be scary, so much so that some say “never again”. Frank Sinatra beautifully sang, “Love is lovelier, the second time around”. Ole Blue Eyes, as well as many of us, have experienced the betrayal in those words. […]
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How Emotionally Focused Therapy Can Save and Transform Your Marriage
February 29, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I will never forget the day I sat wide and teary-eyed in my Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) externship. I watched as Sue Johnson, co-founder of EFT, worked live with a couple, exposing us to the EFT process. It was like nothing I had ever seen before. None of my previous therapy training had prepared me […]
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Keeping Your Love Alive: 4 Ways to Avoid Marriage Failure
February 21, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Keeping the fires burning and the love alive in marriage may not come naturally. The new-love hormone, dopamine, begins to fade after the first year or two of relationship. What then? How do you keep love alive and your relationship healthy and vibrant? Our brain, memories and emotion: What makes us feel close to each […]
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How Fear of Codependency Can Backfire
February 9, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Beth was days away from her storybook wedding. Her excitement about beginning life with the man of her dreams radiated through her giddy smile. All her friends were doing it. And finally it was her turn. What could be wrong with this picture? Only Beth knew of the knot she secretly harbored in her gut. […]
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